Reforming Bad Habits

Ever since I became sexually active (which was only about a year and 9 months ago...I'm a late bloomer), sex has been nothing but a fun activity. I've avoided having anything really to do with my partners other than sex, so it's like friends with benefits...but with only the benefits part. It's been a nice way to avoid the complications that sex would have added to my already complicated past relationships (I swear the only guys that have ever wanted to date me have been assholes).

Last Wednesday, i went to a personally-beloved dive bar to hear an out-of-state band play. While waiting for the opening acts to finish up, I launched into a conversation with a guy who came over to where I was sitting to warn me that my ass was showing (my shirt was riding up a little at the bottom, leaving a slice of flesh between my shirt and pants exposed). We somehow got into a debate about emotional sex versus no-strings-attached sex, with him actually advocating for emotional sex. The guy believed in emotionally-charged sex so much that he had given up sex until he could find a woman who would be willing to date him first, so he had been celibate for 18 months. It wasn't difficult to convince him to hop into bed with me. However, we started texting the day after, and, somehow, I found myself asking him out. So, now, I'm taking him out on a date on Saturday. Also, he's invited me to his housewarming party on Friday. My excuse for going is that he's promised to tell me the story as to how he ended up smashing 40s with a machete in a stranger's basement earlier this year if I show.

How does anyone end up dating someone they just intended to fuck? It's a pretty cliché story for a guy to date a girl just so that she'll have sex with him, but you never hear about it happening the other way around. Well, it does happen and it's happening to me. It's not like I don't like the guy. He's unintentionally adorable and kind of a badass (you'd have to be in order to smash 40s with a machete). He might be the one to convince me to stop using people for sex (although, is it really using if it's consensual?).