We're all guilty on occasion of being a little self-absorbed. When someone is having a bad day, it is understandable that they may want to focus on themselves a bit in order to put themselves in a good mood. However, some people are in that mindset perpetually. Their drive in life is what can they do to make themselves better than they already feel, even if they feel like life can't really get much better. Such a drive can be beneficial because it can lead to a great accumulation of wealth and material goods. However, the real question is at what cost can such a drive be maintained? That's the tragedy of it all. Such a person risks alienating everyone because their mind is so "me, me, me" that there's no room for any thoughts about anyone else. Just look at Scrooge in "A Christmas Carol." He once had a fiancée, but he was so miserable with his lot in life at that moment in time that he lost her because he didn't give a damn about her. Last night I had a drink with a friend in a neighborhood that I am entirely unfamiliar with in a city that I was visiting for the third time in my life. He was in such a rush to get to leave and go home, only to get to bed even though he wasn't tired, that he failed to even ask if I was alright to get back to where I was staying on my own (this is the first trip that I've stayed at this location) or to wait until I was leaving (I hadn't even finished my drink) to at least point me in the right direction. It was as if he didn't care if I ended up being raped or wandering in the neighborhood of the bar until all hours, just so long as his wants were met. Treatment like that after I had essentially spent the evening, the last evening of my trip, trying to cheer him up because he was all doom and gloom about his future job prospects (which I understand because I've been feeling like that myself lately). Needless to say, friends like that aren't worth keeping around, especially when I've babysat him when he was drunk in a city that neither of us were entirely familiar with, making sure that he got back to his place in that city okay and whatnot. I am so glad that I'm not like that. Because if you have no friends since you've driven them all away with your miserable selfishness, how will you ever feel loved and who the hell will be there when you need help? You'll never be happy.
On another note, I hope this guy's offer is still good in 1.5 years: http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/m4w/2070415887.html
Thursday, November 25, 2010
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Dating in the digital age...ooh la la!
When my father dated my mother, they relied on in-person interaction and telephone calls.
Living in the modern era, I can also use email, text, instant messaging, tweets, and webcams to keep a relationship going.
Even finding a guy has completely changed thanks to dating websites. No longer are we limited to just our city and contacts n other cities. Instead, I could go online and find someone in another continent to flirt with right now.
Whenever I lament the lack of datable specimen in the general area where I live and the difficulty I have in meeting someone who isn't a sleazebag and is available, I have one friend who will always tell me to go register for a dating website and find a nice guy to marry (not date, but marry...am I that old?) that way.
So guess what I did yesterday. Yes, I, Girl86, actually signed up for one with the intent on making a legitimate effort to breathe new life into my dead love life. Why? Yesterday, I came across a list of responses to the question "Why are you still single?" that relatives allegedly ask during the holidays. It made me realize that I haven't had a boyfriend since 2006 and how little time left I have to find a suitable mate if I want to get married and have 1-2 kids by the time I'm 30. My best friend's upcoming nuptials aren't helping either (she's getting married the day after Thanksgiving). She's my age, pregnant, and getting married to the love of her life. The situation makes me feel like I'm one chain-smoking habit away from being Bridget Jones.
I'm also suffering from slight baby envy (yes I'm fully aware of how old that makes me sound) because my aunt just gave birth to my newest cousin on Monday and, as previously mentioned, my best friend is pregnant. Therefore, I've been looking at a lot of baby stuff lately for baby shower gifts, giving baby name suggestions, and asking how the pregnancy/baby prep has been going. Obviously, I don't want to get pregnant until after I graduate, but it's made me realize how nice it'd be to start a family.
It's clear by now that Mr. Perfect won't just come waltzing up to me one day with an engagement ring in his pocket. Me joining a dating website is a way of giving Fate a little push to get the ball rolling so that I can stick to the timeline that I set out for myself when I was a teenager. Is that so very wrong?
Living in the modern era, I can also use email, text, instant messaging, tweets, and webcams to keep a relationship going.
Even finding a guy has completely changed thanks to dating websites. No longer are we limited to just our city and contacts n other cities. Instead, I could go online and find someone in another continent to flirt with right now.
Whenever I lament the lack of datable specimen in the general area where I live and the difficulty I have in meeting someone who isn't a sleazebag and is available, I have one friend who will always tell me to go register for a dating website and find a nice guy to marry (not date, but marry...am I that old?) that way.
So guess what I did yesterday. Yes, I, Girl86, actually signed up for one with the intent on making a legitimate effort to breathe new life into my dead love life. Why? Yesterday, I came across a list of responses to the question "Why are you still single?" that relatives allegedly ask during the holidays. It made me realize that I haven't had a boyfriend since 2006 and how little time left I have to find a suitable mate if I want to get married and have 1-2 kids by the time I'm 30. My best friend's upcoming nuptials aren't helping either (she's getting married the day after Thanksgiving). She's my age, pregnant, and getting married to the love of her life. The situation makes me feel like I'm one chain-smoking habit away from being Bridget Jones.
I'm also suffering from slight baby envy (yes I'm fully aware of how old that makes me sound) because my aunt just gave birth to my newest cousin on Monday and, as previously mentioned, my best friend is pregnant. Therefore, I've been looking at a lot of baby stuff lately for baby shower gifts, giving baby name suggestions, and asking how the pregnancy/baby prep has been going. Obviously, I don't want to get pregnant until after I graduate, but it's made me realize how nice it'd be to start a family.
It's clear by now that Mr. Perfect won't just come waltzing up to me one day with an engagement ring in his pocket. Me joining a dating website is a way of giving Fate a little push to get the ball rolling so that I can stick to the timeline that I set out for myself when I was a teenager. Is that so very wrong?
Monday, November 8, 2010
Datable on Craigslist
My last post was sort of superwhiny and superbitchy, so to make up for it, I went through the NYC Craigslist and came up with a few posts that made me want to actually want to go on a date with the guys who posted them:
loving every minute... come have fun with me! - 25
A coffeehouse conversation with a friend recounting her adventures on the list of Craig inspired me to post something myself. I have posted here a while ago and have gone on disaster dates as well as awesome ones, and I am ready to spin the wheel of fortune again (god that crappy game show totally ruins that phrase now).
Me? I like to think of myself as sociable and outgoing, I would describe my personality as extremely open-minded, nonjudgmental, respectful, open to diversity, artsy and abstract, and sometimes bonafied smart ass. I am 6' 180 lbs athletic black male, who's educated.
You? I don't really want to set any physical criteria for the kind of woman I'd like to meet. I love the randomness of the people who reply on CL, but I'm only looking for one really great lover ... so make your replies good. lol And tell me about yourself.
I'd love the company of an intellectually stimulating sexual woman on a regular basic yet I'm not ready for a long term relationship. It is difficult when two people aren't on the same page. I hate one night stands as well. I do enjoy sharing certain experiences with a lover.... so I'd like to find a lover i could spend some time with on an ongoing basis. I believe that making some sort of connection while sleeping with a person is important?
Be in manhattan, brooklyn, or queens, and able to host because i won't.
Your picture will get you mine. If no pic is attached I won't even open your mail.
Also put "Reading is sexy" in the subject, so I know you read this entire post and you aren't spam
good guy for a good girl - 29
i wanna meet nice girl to hangout, friendship, relationship, and etc. I'm not looking to rush in to anything just mainly meet people and see what happens.
I'm a photographer. Work for some fashion magazines. Lived last years in many countries and now I live in New York.
I like surfing, ski, movies, music, photo. Some my hobbies turned in my professional occasion.
My english not the best and I improving it in the school.
I don't care about your culture, nation, race, color.
Pete
***Investment Banker Seeks A "Girl Next Door" Type To Date and Spoil** - 30
Good Evening Ladies,
How was your weekend?
Off the bat what would bring a gentleman like me to Craigs? Curiousity, just like when you were little when your mother told you to stay away from the fireplace you would walk closer till you could no longer stand the heat. In this case whats the worst that could happen?
A little about myself, I am a very positive person and rarely will you find me unhappy. More importantly, I love to have fun! I am a free spirit. Life is too short to be unhappy and I like to live my life to the fullest. I am intelligent, sophisticated. articulate, well versed in international affairs, have good looks and a great personality. I enjoy drinking white wine, Italian, Mexican, & Middle Eastern cuisine among others, and traveling. I run a private equity firm which focuses on the emerging markets specifically Asia and South America. I am well dressed, well groomed, physically fit and healthy. I am very ambitious, and have a successful career.
I am emotionally mature, honest, and have a great sense of humor. I love cracking jokes, laughing and making people laugh. I love my family and friends and enjoy spending time with them. I love watching college football and watching sporting events and outdoor activities. I'd like to meet someone who enjoys hole in wall restaurants as well as fine dining establishments. Someone who likes traveling to Monaco as well as a low-key weekend to Miami. In essence a lady who is versatile.
What I'm looking for: someone between the ages of 23-35, physically fit and healthy. In the past I have dated European, All-American, Spanish and Middle Eastern women so that would be my preference. Physical attraction is important but there has to be a connection and chemistry as well. Ideally you are full of energy, intelligent, honest, goal-oriented, have a good attitude and be open to new adventures. So I am looking to date, have fun, and meet people outside my own social circle.
Well if you are still reading, I am done for now! If I have piqued your interest feel free to send me a note. Tell me a little about yourself, hobbies, a photo and I will reciprocate. Ladies a picture is appreciated, I will certainly reciprocate with mine as well. I am a real gentleman if you can't tell already. One more thing, if you could put "Upper West Side" in the subject line that would appreciated so I know you are real.
Cheers
Somebody once asked me if I considered myself a hipster... - 22
and obviously if i am not a hipster i would say no, and if i was a hipster i would say no..... so clearly my answer was no.
(though i guess if i was a faux-hipster i would say yes perhaps? unclear, but that didn't happen anyway)
so i thought to myself, why would someone consider me a hipster? and on the flip side, why did it not happen all that often?
without further ado, i present to you two lists:
things about me that make people think i am a hipster:
i wear skinny jeans
my fantastic music collection
i like falafel
and liquor
and red stripe
i've worn wayfarers for a while now
canvas shoes - nuff said
plaid
things about me that make me NOT a hipster
i wear wayfarers
i am not (that) pretentious about my music
i actually go to art shows to see and enjoy the art
i don't live in brooklyn
or ride the L all the time
i know when to dress up, or dress down, or not dress like a fool
i can talk about things that your stereotypical hipster can't.
i'm a recent college grad, looking for someone intellectual and easy to talk to, and passionate (about something, anything). you would look good in a little black cocktail dress, and even better in jeans.
anyways, if you think we may be a match, shoot me an email. and enjoy the pic.
Check this out.... - 29
So here I am, back on CL.... I've been here before, and besides meeting a couple people that didn't lead anywhere, all I've found here is lots of spam in my mailbox, and frustration. Yet here I am again willing to give this another try....
In the past, I a came to the conclusion fairly quickly that life doesn't happen in front of your computer screen, it happens "out there"... in the real world.... However, in the real world in New York, we are all so busy... Caught up in the hustle & bustle, our routines, trying to make our dreams come true. Even when we try to make ourselves available, others are not necessarily available to meet us, or to get to know us.
As we grow older it becomes more frustrating... We evolve, and what we seek becomes narrowed down because we know what we want and what we don't. We know what is good for us and what isn't. But even when we decide to have open minds, to get rid of our prejudice and judgment of others, we still have to deal with other people's expectations... It is very tricky!!!
Meeting new people in this city is difficult enough as it is, so meeting someone you really like seems like something impossible at many times.
Of course there are the bars and the clubs, but if you are like me, you will know also that the chances of stumbling upon a rare treasure in these places are slim, and dedicating time to go out there just isn't worth it if you are busy and trying to make the most of your time....
So, although I don't have many expectations form Craigslist, I think that it might just be possible to meet someone who feels the same as me, who has more than a thing or two in common with me, and see where things go....
I am French/American, 29, grew up moving back and forth between both countries. I came to NY 4 years ago to pursue what I love, Music. During the daytime, I am blessed to be surrounded by inspiring children and teens, to whom I teach music.
I am not looking for anything specific. You can't seek a certain type of relationship. They just happen. However, I am obviously tired of meaningless flings that lead nowhere...
I am seeking someone who is driven by her goals or passion, and who would like to share a bit of her life with someone....
I won't get into details. I am open minded and seeking the same.....
If all this sounds very familiar to you, please drop a line and we can take it from there...
Thanx for reading.
▌▌PAUSE █▌STOP - 30
Soo Cold! Oh and .. I am also caring, passionate, creative, fun and down to earth.
I am driven, successful, and lucky to have achieved alot of my goals...
I work and have a great and fun corp career.
I'm also in Love with photography and what I can create with it..
I also am an ace bartender..ok not so much..
I love my bike and random rides through a new park and I love a good beach!
I feel lucky to have a good circle of friends, and family and I believe I am good to them.
I am a great listener, as well as a great motivator!
I love sitting for hours with a coffee, or a beer and talking until the wee hours of the morning!
When it comes to dating, I am kind of old fashioned.
I am skilled at opening your doors for you..clumsily sometimes but effective still. I Will send flowers .hah! and I will call..
Finding new friends are easy, finding new people to date, is also pretty easy...but Sometimes its difficult to find genuine people. If you feel you are a girl who likes to make time for people, someone ambitious, creative, adventurous... but above all else, caring. Say hi !
Well, I think that's about it....
ps...I love to dance and have fun...I hope you do too! Don't party poop on me and be up for hanging out..possibly this week..Deal?!
Looking for fellow b/tard to connect with - 20
Hey I want to meet someone with a similar sense of humor to mine so I figured I'd appeal to any b/tards who lurk on Craigslist. Just because I am looking for a b/tard that doesn't mean that is all that is going on in my life/ all I want to talk about/ all I enjoy. Whatever just keep reading.
Me: 5'11ish, Short Black hair and dark brown eyes. Average build, I do work out everday though, which I guess I am proud of. Basically I am a pretty laid back, abstract, easy going, artsy kind of guy with a great sense of humor. I'm a pretty big nerd, video games and films(especially cheesy horror films), although most people say they can't tell from looking at me. Some of my hobbies include drawing and singing(bad at it). I'm a full time student in college, and an Anthropology major, so I do love a good museum exhibit.
Some of my favorite musicians are the Killers, Mos Def, CYNE, Talib Kweli, The Dresden Dolls, and Jack Off Jill. I love a good Christopher Moore or Philip K. Dick book. I tend to make obscure popular culture references and my dream job is either a teacher or a real life version of a Scooby Doo villain(I think it would be great to be a Pirate Ghost and scare people away from a secret silver mine of something). I'm an Avid reader, especially of absurdist fiction and historical fiction. I like to take long walks, sometimes barefoot and sometimes in the rain(I really hate Umbrellas and shoes), through parks and sit around and make fun of people who pass by. I like to sit around and do crossword puzzles and generally just be laid back.
My ideal date would have to be either grabbing some food, hitting a few movies or a museum or just hanging out in the park for picnic date, although I always enjoy seeing a good play, love the theater. People watching is also one of my hobbies. I'm a big fan of cuddling(I love to cuddle-wrestle like in the Lion King) and romantic things. Generally I just like to have fun and explore. One of my favorite things is to just get lost and the city and find new places to eat and shop. Oh yea and if it means anything to you my favorite game is Super Smash Bros. Melee.
You (Ideally): Good sense of humor, not too tall, able to understand abstract comments and jokes, ability to juggle(Not required, but would be cool) and not after my Lucky Charms(I don't budge on this one). Looks aren't really that important, but I do have a thing for nerdy type girls, but again not necessary, preferably also a pirate. Not looking for meaningless sex or stuff like that because I'm not. But basically if any of what I said resonated with you feel free to send me a message.
Although good, this guy should have left off the fact that he's a trust-fund baby because all he'll get is golddiggers...
SO MANY PROSTITUTES, SO LITTLE IMAGINATION-THE SAD TRUTH - 29
Roses Roses I got Roses for you said the Craigslist Sugar Daddy.
Sorry but reading the ads on here is just sad.
Straight to the point. I am a genuine honest caring guy. I am fun. I love film. I love music. I love dining. I love getting my hands dirty collecting old rare vinyl. I love going to dingy DIY places to hear music as much as hearing it in Lincoln Center. I love seeing new films as well as old ones at the Film Forum. I love to eat somewhere fancy and nice as well as some low key funky hideaway that is more fun than expensive. Wine bars are superb but so is a hole in the wall bar with lots of different beer selections. I don't have a type at all. I have dated young girls as well as more mature ladies. There is magic in everyone.
And oh yes, I am snob free trust fund kid who does not need to spend his wealth to prove his worth but has no problem making a girl feel special and well taken care of. Only get in touch if you are ready to like me for who i am and not for what i can do for you. That is the bonus!
If you are interested in this exploration then contact me. I want to know about you. I want to know what you like. I want to see you.
And my favorite (partly because it made me literally laugh out loud)...
Please be mostly normal - 29
I'm just looking for people.
Ok, I'll be more specific: I'm looking for people who have at least half an intellect.
Ok, I'll be EVEN MORE specific: I'm looking for attractive people too. Oh yeah, and women are vastly preferred over men. Ah, the wonders of sexual preference.
I'm Nick. I don't really want anything past finding my soulmate for forever. Or getting married in a couple of weeks. Or we can take our time and wait for a good month or so before we get hitched. I'm flexible.
I work at a restaurant, I write songs for guitar and vocals, and I do yoga and I read.
I like dating people who are athletic or at least in shape, because I feel like I get a workout by watching my girlfriend exercise. And my part in the relationship is to do drugs. I'm just kidding; we can both do drugs and exercise together.
So let me know if you want to go on a date and possibly get married. Maybe we can go to the North Pole and build an igloo. That's a nice date.
That's me in the pictures below. I got a haircut since this last picture, and I had to cut off my Statue of Liberty cowlick. It kept gouging holes through all of my hats. Don't worry; I'm not a tourist, as this picture might suggest. I believe the proper term is, "sightseer." Nice euphemism, right? My whole fucking life is sightseeing.
Bye!
Write back! Thanks.
Nick
loving every minute... come have fun with me! - 25
A coffeehouse conversation with a friend recounting her adventures on the list of Craig inspired me to post something myself. I have posted here a while ago and have gone on disaster dates as well as awesome ones, and I am ready to spin the wheel of fortune again (god that crappy game show totally ruins that phrase now).
Me? I like to think of myself as sociable and outgoing, I would describe my personality as extremely open-minded, nonjudgmental, respectful, open to diversity, artsy and abstract, and sometimes bonafied smart ass. I am 6' 180 lbs athletic black male, who's educated.
You? I don't really want to set any physical criteria for the kind of woman I'd like to meet. I love the randomness of the people who reply on CL, but I'm only looking for one really great lover ... so make your replies good. lol And tell me about yourself.
I'd love the company of an intellectually stimulating sexual woman on a regular basic yet I'm not ready for a long term relationship. It is difficult when two people aren't on the same page. I hate one night stands as well. I do enjoy sharing certain experiences with a lover.... so I'd like to find a lover i could spend some time with on an ongoing basis. I believe that making some sort of connection while sleeping with a person is important?
Be in manhattan, brooklyn, or queens, and able to host because i won't.
Your picture will get you mine. If no pic is attached I won't even open your mail.
Also put "Reading is sexy" in the subject, so I know you read this entire post and you aren't spam
good guy for a good girl - 29
i wanna meet nice girl to hangout, friendship, relationship, and etc. I'm not looking to rush in to anything just mainly meet people and see what happens.
I'm a photographer. Work for some fashion magazines. Lived last years in many countries and now I live in New York.
I like surfing, ski, movies, music, photo. Some my hobbies turned in my professional occasion.
My english not the best and I improving it in the school.
I don't care about your culture, nation, race, color.
Pete
***Investment Banker Seeks A "Girl Next Door" Type To Date and Spoil** - 30
Good Evening Ladies,
How was your weekend?
Off the bat what would bring a gentleman like me to Craigs? Curiousity, just like when you were little when your mother told you to stay away from the fireplace you would walk closer till you could no longer stand the heat. In this case whats the worst that could happen?
A little about myself, I am a very positive person and rarely will you find me unhappy. More importantly, I love to have fun! I am a free spirit. Life is too short to be unhappy and I like to live my life to the fullest. I am intelligent, sophisticated. articulate, well versed in international affairs, have good looks and a great personality. I enjoy drinking white wine, Italian, Mexican, & Middle Eastern cuisine among others, and traveling. I run a private equity firm which focuses on the emerging markets specifically Asia and South America. I am well dressed, well groomed, physically fit and healthy. I am very ambitious, and have a successful career.
I am emotionally mature, honest, and have a great sense of humor. I love cracking jokes, laughing and making people laugh. I love my family and friends and enjoy spending time with them. I love watching college football and watching sporting events and outdoor activities. I'd like to meet someone who enjoys hole in wall restaurants as well as fine dining establishments. Someone who likes traveling to Monaco as well as a low-key weekend to Miami. In essence a lady who is versatile.
What I'm looking for: someone between the ages of 23-35, physically fit and healthy. In the past I have dated European, All-American, Spanish and Middle Eastern women so that would be my preference. Physical attraction is important but there has to be a connection and chemistry as well. Ideally you are full of energy, intelligent, honest, goal-oriented, have a good attitude and be open to new adventures. So I am looking to date, have fun, and meet people outside my own social circle.
Well if you are still reading, I am done for now! If I have piqued your interest feel free to send me a note. Tell me a little about yourself, hobbies, a photo and I will reciprocate. Ladies a picture is appreciated, I will certainly reciprocate with mine as well. I am a real gentleman if you can't tell already. One more thing, if you could put "Upper West Side" in the subject line that would appreciated so I know you are real.
Cheers
Somebody once asked me if I considered myself a hipster... - 22
and obviously if i am not a hipster i would say no, and if i was a hipster i would say no..... so clearly my answer was no.
(though i guess if i was a faux-hipster i would say yes perhaps? unclear, but that didn't happen anyway)
so i thought to myself, why would someone consider me a hipster? and on the flip side, why did it not happen all that often?
without further ado, i present to you two lists:
things about me that make people think i am a hipster:
i wear skinny jeans
my fantastic music collection
i like falafel
and liquor
and red stripe
i've worn wayfarers for a while now
canvas shoes - nuff said
plaid
things about me that make me NOT a hipster
i wear wayfarers
i am not (that) pretentious about my music
i actually go to art shows to see and enjoy the art
i don't live in brooklyn
or ride the L all the time
i know when to dress up, or dress down, or not dress like a fool
i can talk about things that your stereotypical hipster can't.
i'm a recent college grad, looking for someone intellectual and easy to talk to, and passionate (about something, anything). you would look good in a little black cocktail dress, and even better in jeans.
anyways, if you think we may be a match, shoot me an email. and enjoy the pic.
Check this out.... - 29
So here I am, back on CL.... I've been here before, and besides meeting a couple people that didn't lead anywhere, all I've found here is lots of spam in my mailbox, and frustration. Yet here I am again willing to give this another try....
In the past, I a came to the conclusion fairly quickly that life doesn't happen in front of your computer screen, it happens "out there"... in the real world.... However, in the real world in New York, we are all so busy... Caught up in the hustle & bustle, our routines, trying to make our dreams come true. Even when we try to make ourselves available, others are not necessarily available to meet us, or to get to know us.
As we grow older it becomes more frustrating... We evolve, and what we seek becomes narrowed down because we know what we want and what we don't. We know what is good for us and what isn't. But even when we decide to have open minds, to get rid of our prejudice and judgment of others, we still have to deal with other people's expectations... It is very tricky!!!
Meeting new people in this city is difficult enough as it is, so meeting someone you really like seems like something impossible at many times.
Of course there are the bars and the clubs, but if you are like me, you will know also that the chances of stumbling upon a rare treasure in these places are slim, and dedicating time to go out there just isn't worth it if you are busy and trying to make the most of your time....
So, although I don't have many expectations form Craigslist, I think that it might just be possible to meet someone who feels the same as me, who has more than a thing or two in common with me, and see where things go....
I am French/American, 29, grew up moving back and forth between both countries. I came to NY 4 years ago to pursue what I love, Music. During the daytime, I am blessed to be surrounded by inspiring children and teens, to whom I teach music.
I am not looking for anything specific. You can't seek a certain type of relationship. They just happen. However, I am obviously tired of meaningless flings that lead nowhere...
I am seeking someone who is driven by her goals or passion, and who would like to share a bit of her life with someone....
I won't get into details. I am open minded and seeking the same.....
If all this sounds very familiar to you, please drop a line and we can take it from there...
Thanx for reading.
▌▌PAUSE █▌STOP - 30
Soo Cold! Oh and .. I am also caring, passionate, creative, fun and down to earth.
I am driven, successful, and lucky to have achieved alot of my goals...
I work and have a great and fun corp career.
I'm also in Love with photography and what I can create with it..
I also am an ace bartender..ok not so much..
I love my bike and random rides through a new park and I love a good beach!
I feel lucky to have a good circle of friends, and family and I believe I am good to them.
I am a great listener, as well as a great motivator!
I love sitting for hours with a coffee, or a beer and talking until the wee hours of the morning!
When it comes to dating, I am kind of old fashioned.
I am skilled at opening your doors for you..clumsily sometimes but effective still. I Will send flowers .hah! and I will call..
Finding new friends are easy, finding new people to date, is also pretty easy...but Sometimes its difficult to find genuine people. If you feel you are a girl who likes to make time for people, someone ambitious, creative, adventurous... but above all else, caring. Say hi !
Well, I think that's about it....
ps...I love to dance and have fun...I hope you do too! Don't party poop on me and be up for hanging out..possibly this week..Deal?!
Looking for fellow b/tard to connect with - 20
Hey I want to meet someone with a similar sense of humor to mine so I figured I'd appeal to any b/tards who lurk on Craigslist. Just because I am looking for a b/tard that doesn't mean that is all that is going on in my life/ all I want to talk about/ all I enjoy. Whatever just keep reading.
Me: 5'11ish, Short Black hair and dark brown eyes. Average build, I do work out everday though, which I guess I am proud of. Basically I am a pretty laid back, abstract, easy going, artsy kind of guy with a great sense of humor. I'm a pretty big nerd, video games and films(especially cheesy horror films), although most people say they can't tell from looking at me. Some of my hobbies include drawing and singing(bad at it). I'm a full time student in college, and an Anthropology major, so I do love a good museum exhibit.
Some of my favorite musicians are the Killers, Mos Def, CYNE, Talib Kweli, The Dresden Dolls, and Jack Off Jill. I love a good Christopher Moore or Philip K. Dick book. I tend to make obscure popular culture references and my dream job is either a teacher or a real life version of a Scooby Doo villain(I think it would be great to be a Pirate Ghost and scare people away from a secret silver mine of something). I'm an Avid reader, especially of absurdist fiction and historical fiction. I like to take long walks, sometimes barefoot and sometimes in the rain(I really hate Umbrellas and shoes), through parks and sit around and make fun of people who pass by. I like to sit around and do crossword puzzles and generally just be laid back.
My ideal date would have to be either grabbing some food, hitting a few movies or a museum or just hanging out in the park for picnic date, although I always enjoy seeing a good play, love the theater. People watching is also one of my hobbies. I'm a big fan of cuddling(I love to cuddle-wrestle like in the Lion King) and romantic things. Generally I just like to have fun and explore. One of my favorite things is to just get lost and the city and find new places to eat and shop. Oh yea and if it means anything to you my favorite game is Super Smash Bros. Melee.
You (Ideally): Good sense of humor, not too tall, able to understand abstract comments and jokes, ability to juggle(Not required, but would be cool) and not after my Lucky Charms(I don't budge on this one). Looks aren't really that important, but I do have a thing for nerdy type girls, but again not necessary, preferably also a pirate. Not looking for meaningless sex or stuff like that because I'm not. But basically if any of what I said resonated with you feel free to send me a message.
Although good, this guy should have left off the fact that he's a trust-fund baby because all he'll get is golddiggers...
SO MANY PROSTITUTES, SO LITTLE IMAGINATION-THE SAD TRUTH - 29
Roses Roses I got Roses for you said the Craigslist Sugar Daddy.
Sorry but reading the ads on here is just sad.
Straight to the point. I am a genuine honest caring guy. I am fun. I love film. I love music. I love dining. I love getting my hands dirty collecting old rare vinyl. I love going to dingy DIY places to hear music as much as hearing it in Lincoln Center. I love seeing new films as well as old ones at the Film Forum. I love to eat somewhere fancy and nice as well as some low key funky hideaway that is more fun than expensive. Wine bars are superb but so is a hole in the wall bar with lots of different beer selections. I don't have a type at all. I have dated young girls as well as more mature ladies. There is magic in everyone.
And oh yes, I am snob free trust fund kid who does not need to spend his wealth to prove his worth but has no problem making a girl feel special and well taken care of. Only get in touch if you are ready to like me for who i am and not for what i can do for you. That is the bonus!
If you are interested in this exploration then contact me. I want to know about you. I want to know what you like. I want to see you.
And my favorite (partly because it made me literally laugh out loud)...
Please be mostly normal - 29
I'm just looking for people.
Ok, I'll be more specific: I'm looking for people who have at least half an intellect.
Ok, I'll be EVEN MORE specific: I'm looking for attractive people too. Oh yeah, and women are vastly preferred over men. Ah, the wonders of sexual preference.
I'm Nick. I don't really want anything past finding my soulmate for forever. Or getting married in a couple of weeks. Or we can take our time and wait for a good month or so before we get hitched. I'm flexible.
I work at a restaurant, I write songs for guitar and vocals, and I do yoga and I read.
I like dating people who are athletic or at least in shape, because I feel like I get a workout by watching my girlfriend exercise. And my part in the relationship is to do drugs. I'm just kidding; we can both do drugs and exercise together.
So let me know if you want to go on a date and possibly get married. Maybe we can go to the North Pole and build an igloo. That's a nice date.
That's me in the pictures below. I got a haircut since this last picture, and I had to cut off my Statue of Liberty cowlick. It kept gouging holes through all of my hats. Don't worry; I'm not a tourist, as this picture might suggest. I believe the proper term is, "sightseer." Nice euphemism, right? My whole fucking life is sightseeing.
Bye!
Write back! Thanks.
Nick
Mean girls never prosper...or do they?
If there's one lesson that we can take away from movies that involve mean girls (or guys) is that the bitch who made your life hell in high school is supposed to fail miserably after graduation. Too bad real life refuses to imitate life...
I was at the book store with my mom yesterday (she flew out to visit me, <3 her lots), when she just happened to find a book that was authored by the queen bitch of the Wannabes (they tried so hard to be popular, but always failed miserably because they were the only ones who put worth on the alleged social hierarchy that they created in their minds, I only term them the Wannabes because they had people that they wanted to be friends with who wanted nothing to do with them, including some of my friends and some people who wanted to be friends with me that I never really made an effort to be friends with) that tried to make my life hell in middle school and high school. These evil bitches even tried to arrange it so that I'd fail a course in middle school by excluding me from the big group project that I was assigned to do with a few of them (thank God my teacher believed me when I told her that I tried to get with them to work on it, even showing up at their houses to try to pin them down, or I would've ended up with an F in the class). To this day I hate group projects with a fiery passion. I never knew why they hated me, but they were mean to me before I even met them. The queen bitch's right-hand woman was assigned to show me around school on my first day, but blew me off when I tried to invite her to go get ice cream the day before school started and stood me up when we were supposed to meet up so she could show me where my first class was. Then when I finally met her later in the day, she was, along with the rest of her little group, a complete bitch to my face.
So where's the social justice in everything? Why is it that the queen bitch gets to be a published author and continue to live off of mommy and daddy's dime while she explores creative writing as a career, while I'm stuck struggling at a no-name law school with nothing to show for it yet?
On the bright side, I get a closer look beyond the rumor mill at what my some of my former classmates have been up to since I last saw them at graduation (I skipped out on the official "unofficial" reunion last winter because I was tired after a family wine-tasting day trip in Napa Valley...after I made some of my closer friends promise to show up to keep me from being bored at it, oops) because the bitch was never creative enough to delineate from the truth except to make herself look better than she really was (case in point, tried to make herself sound less shallow in the book when she and her friends were the only female label-whores on campus). Judging from the first few pages of the book (thanks to that nifty "Browse Inside" feature) it's holding true as ever (can't believe that she didn't even bother changing first names...and can't believe she was delusional enough to pretend that she had a long-term relationship with one of my friend's exs when my friend was dating him senior year, but she dumped him and the bitch was eager for her leftovers).
So anyways, to sum it up, bitches sometimes get way more than they deserve, even when they don't change at all. And, yeah, it sucks ass, especially when you're nowhere near as "successful." Just gotta hope that things will get better and that the world will right itself out in the end.
I was at the book store with my mom yesterday (she flew out to visit me, <3 her lots), when she just happened to find a book that was authored by the queen bitch of the Wannabes (they tried so hard to be popular, but always failed miserably because they were the only ones who put worth on the alleged social hierarchy that they created in their minds, I only term them the Wannabes because they had people that they wanted to be friends with who wanted nothing to do with them, including some of my friends and some people who wanted to be friends with me that I never really made an effort to be friends with) that tried to make my life hell in middle school and high school. These evil bitches even tried to arrange it so that I'd fail a course in middle school by excluding me from the big group project that I was assigned to do with a few of them (thank God my teacher believed me when I told her that I tried to get with them to work on it, even showing up at their houses to try to pin them down, or I would've ended up with an F in the class). To this day I hate group projects with a fiery passion. I never knew why they hated me, but they were mean to me before I even met them. The queen bitch's right-hand woman was assigned to show me around school on my first day, but blew me off when I tried to invite her to go get ice cream the day before school started and stood me up when we were supposed to meet up so she could show me where my first class was. Then when I finally met her later in the day, she was, along with the rest of her little group, a complete bitch to my face.
So where's the social justice in everything? Why is it that the queen bitch gets to be a published author and continue to live off of mommy and daddy's dime while she explores creative writing as a career, while I'm stuck struggling at a no-name law school with nothing to show for it yet?
On the bright side, I get a closer look beyond the rumor mill at what my some of my former classmates have been up to since I last saw them at graduation (I skipped out on the official "unofficial" reunion last winter because I was tired after a family wine-tasting day trip in Napa Valley...after I made some of my closer friends promise to show up to keep me from being bored at it, oops) because the bitch was never creative enough to delineate from the truth except to make herself look better than she really was (case in point, tried to make herself sound less shallow in the book when she and her friends were the only female label-whores on campus). Judging from the first few pages of the book (thanks to that nifty "Browse Inside" feature) it's holding true as ever (can't believe that she didn't even bother changing first names...and can't believe she was delusional enough to pretend that she had a long-term relationship with one of my friend's exs when my friend was dating him senior year, but she dumped him and the bitch was eager for her leftovers).
So anyways, to sum it up, bitches sometimes get way more than they deserve, even when they don't change at all. And, yeah, it sucks ass, especially when you're nowhere near as "successful." Just gotta hope that things will get better and that the world will right itself out in the end.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Looking for love in all the wrong spaces/places/faces
I've fallen in love with Reeve Carney's music. I want the sweet, romantic, slightly-obsessive love that he sings about. Sadly, I can't seem to find it. Anyone got a map, or a street address where I can find it?
I only seem to attract the worst in society. The males that I've been entangled with in the past, with the exception of one, have all been utterly in love with themselves and only themselves. To them, I've been an accessory. It's always been what can they get out of me for as little effort as possible put forth on their part. Is it any wonder why my love life is in shambles when it exists and never exists for very long before disappearing for long periods of time? They've made me as jaded as I am. Why bother wanting to believe when it's just a canned line? Why bother investing emotionally when they refuse to extend you the same courtesy?
The more I hear, the less I believe. If a guy were to bother to get to know me, he'd realize that I'm not like all of the other girls that he's been able to manipulate. If he knew me, he'd know to be straightforward and to just say what's worked in the past and what he thinks that every girl wants to hear. But they don't, so I get to hear all of the same stuff on repeat, like watching a movie I've seen a dozen times. All guys of that sucky caliber say the same stuff; it's so cliché and predictable. Everything plays out the same way as well. I wish that I could break the cycle, but all of the other kinds of guys, the ones that are decent human beings, end up being only my friends, refusing to see me as female.
So, I suppose my options are give up of die of asphyxiation from holding my breath for a decent mate who'd actually appreciate me for once. Lovely.
I only seem to attract the worst in society. The males that I've been entangled with in the past, with the exception of one, have all been utterly in love with themselves and only themselves. To them, I've been an accessory. It's always been what can they get out of me for as little effort as possible put forth on their part. Is it any wonder why my love life is in shambles when it exists and never exists for very long before disappearing for long periods of time? They've made me as jaded as I am. Why bother wanting to believe when it's just a canned line? Why bother investing emotionally when they refuse to extend you the same courtesy?
The more I hear, the less I believe. If a guy were to bother to get to know me, he'd realize that I'm not like all of the other girls that he's been able to manipulate. If he knew me, he'd know to be straightforward and to just say what's worked in the past and what he thinks that every girl wants to hear. But they don't, so I get to hear all of the same stuff on repeat, like watching a movie I've seen a dozen times. All guys of that sucky caliber say the same stuff; it's so cliché and predictable. Everything plays out the same way as well. I wish that I could break the cycle, but all of the other kinds of guys, the ones that are decent human beings, end up being only my friends, refusing to see me as female.
So, I suppose my options are give up of die of asphyxiation from holding my breath for a decent mate who'd actually appreciate me for once. Lovely.
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